realizing that there is just another human with her dreams, vulnerabilities, etc.
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why does she feel her sexual attraction growing?
when a man experiences his desire and owns that desire - he is a yes to the sexual desire he feels. being right with your turn on. I want yo...
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I am noticing...
I am noticing that you look really happy I am noticing the radiance of your smile Etc.
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owning your experience and sharing it in the moment...
Frame: i am noticing that... The goal is to appreciate every moment. being a Yes to everything that comes our way
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Be a yes - total appreciation - being a yes to anything that comes up in her
that's being yes to whatever she expresses. let her fully have her thing... complaining is the opposite to appreciation
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when you feel a woman is losing connection with you, it can always tracked back to an aspect of your body language or energy
that's THE thing! If a woman does not connect, it means that something in your behavior or attitude is not fully engaging... She loses c...
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Distractions... + contractions
Distractions are presence killers. It's the things you do when you are not fully present ------ same with contractions, contractions in ...
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5 degrees of presence
Play Wholeness Integrity Appreciation Presence
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she likes it when you use her name
using her name as a way to connect
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Repeat her color - GAME
Repeat the color she's saying as soon as the word comes out of her mouth. That's a positive way to connect... A bit like synchronizi...
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Relationship sabotage - TOP QUESTIONS - NOTE
What's YOUR main relationship sabotage technique? Any idea why do you that? What do you think you can do about it?
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Relationship sabotage - Top questions to ask yourself - NOTE
Here are a couple of openers to warm up the discussion... What's YOUR main relationship sabotage technique? How do you kill your chances...
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Relationship sabotage - I make them into villains that are going to consume me - NOTE
Here is an example of relationship sabotage technique "ha! well, I get scared, that's fer sure. I make them into villains that are ...
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Relationship sabotage - Type of dilemmas we discovered so far - NOTE
A list of the type of dilemmas we discovered so far: Pain/Pleasure Commitment/Freedom Sex Shame/Pleasure Sex Fears/Pleasure Unsafe/Safe Bore...
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Relationship sabotage - the core ideas we identified so far - NOTE
So, here are the core ideas we identified so far: Sabotage is caused by a conflict between two possible plans in your life. Most of the sabo...
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Relationship sabotage - I AM AFRAID - NOTE
I AM AFRAID Let's take this example and understand how the sabotage defence mechanism can hold you back. Suppose that the core emotion t...
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Relationship sabotage - I AM NOT READY - NOTE
I AM NOT READY Now suppose that your fears and doubts concerning relationships are irrational or overdone. "I am not ready!" That&...
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Relationship sabotage - THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG, ONLY WHAT YOU WANT! - NOTE
THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG, ONLY WHAT YOU WANT That's one of the core ideas I want to share! Very often there is a moral belief that the...
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Relationship sabotage - SABOTAGE IS A DEFENCE MECHANISM - NOTE
SABOTAGE IS A DEFENCE MECHANISM Imagine that you are about to go sailing on a ship with a friend. It's a beautiful sailing boat. Now, yo...
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Relationship sabotage - Committed/Non-committed dilemma - NOTE
What about the committed/non-committed dilemma? Different people have different needs. There isn't a single relationship model that work...
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Relationship sabotage - Sabotage stops when you have the skills to stay safe - NOTE
Once you have a VERY clear picture of what you want and have the skills to attract that type of connection the subconscious fears and sabota...
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Relationship sabotage - Boredom/Passion dilemma - NOTE
BOREDOM/PASSION This is another dilemma... You might be afraid of getting stacked in a relationship where passion is gone. You might feel th...
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Relationship sabotage - Intimacy challenges - NOTE
INTIMACY CHALLENGES Here is another set... SEX GUILT/PLEASURE SEX INSECURITY/PLEASURE The insecurities can be things like: Fears of STD'...
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Relationship sabotage - Emotionally safe/unsafe dilemma - NOTE
EMOTIONALLY SAFE/UNSAFE when you are in a relationship, the person you are with might challenge you... That's again the pain/pleasure di...
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Relationship sabotage - Where do negative self destructive emotions come from? - NOTE
Suppose you are in a relationship and you systematically fight with your partner over stupid thing... why is that? here are some core questi...
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Relationship sabotage - Conclusions so far - NOTE
many things come up on this topic and so far, I notice that I have two or three possible directions to go with... The first one is simply an...
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Relationship sabotage - Subconscious emotions - NOTE
Here are some examples of subconscious emotions that you might bring in a date or your relationship that can sabotage what you share with th...
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Relationship sabotage - Commitment/Freedom dilemma - NOTE
Here is another one: On one side you want the commitment, emotional security and peace. On the other side you want freedom, space, spontanei...
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Relationship sabotage - Pain/Pleasure dilemma - NOTE
PAIN/PLEASURE DILEMMA The dilemma is VERY simple: On one side you want to exchange love and create fulfilling relationships! On the other si...
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Relationship sabotage - What are these dilemmas? - NOTE
WHAT ARE THESE DILEMMAS? The relationship dilemmas we talk about are the different possibilities or choices you face in life. When you have ...
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Relationship sabotage - How to solve it - NOTE
STEP 1 - Understand the conflicting interests,fears, negative instinctual reactions happening in you STEP 2 - Identify the core sabotage beh...
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Relationship sabotage - Core sabotage attitudes - NOTE
Here are some ideas... There might be any more... And even though some appear in the the relationships or dating category, they often belong...
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Relationship sabotage - Examples - NOTE
Too picky - No tolerance Picking unavailable people Projecting old stuff in new relationship Super high expectations Commitment to emotional...
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Relationship sabotage - Coaching targets - NOTE
Coaching targets 1 Train new dating and relationship skills Increase the quality of your love life from x% to 80-100% within 30 days Coachin...
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Relationship sabotage - Coaching strategy - Coaching questions - NOTE
What's the most urgent need in your life right now? Dating? Relationships? Other? How good are you at Dating or Relationships? What are ...
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Relationship sabotage - Sabotage happens when you are internally divided - you are not one - NOTE
To stop sabotage, you need to be united internally. How do you do that? Listen first to all of your emotions and desires - Give space to all...
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Relationship sabotage - Why people sometimes try to control your life and how to stop these patterns - NOTE
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Relationship sabotage - What triggers control, demands and insecurity in others - NOTE
What triggers control, demands and insecurity in others...
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Relationship sabotage - How to create safety for you and your date - NOTE
How to build comfort and safety for someone else Respect the person Respect agreements Be kind Match their energy level Proceed with caution...
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Relationship sabotage - Positive conversation - Role play - NOTE
Person 1 - share dilemma for instance... "I want to date you but realize that I want my freedom too - what do you suggest I do with th...
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Relationship sabotage - Sabotage patterns - NOTE
Here are some of the key relationship sabotage patterns: Romantic vision does not match reality - you might hold to the romantic dream in un...
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Relationship sabotage - Positive emotions and their opposite - NOTE
Confidence / Insecurity Confidence / Anxiety Comfort / Discomfort Clarity / Confusion Simplicity / Complications Flow / Obstacles
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Relationship sabotage - What happens when you bring negative emotions into a relationship - NOTE
What do you think happens when you feel uncomfortable, ashamed of your body's nakedness, of intimacy of flirting or of your sexiness? It...
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Relationship sabotage - Relationship skills - NOTE
RELATIONSHIP SKILLS 0-100% What do you do to go from x% to 100% Change what? Practice what? What does it take? ------------ Other possible q...
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Relationship sabotage - The reason why your love life might not be fulfilled is because the love vibration is not strong enough - NOTE
The reason why your love life might not be fulfilled is because the love, romance, sexiness, joy, flirtiness vibration are not strong enough...
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Relationship sabotage - Love is an energy you can train - NOTE
LOVE, ROMANCE, FLIRT OR SEXUAL ATTRACTION ARE ENERGIES YOU CAN TRAIN, INCREASE AND MANIFEST AT WILL. THEY ARE ENERGIES YOU CAN TRAIN. THE MO...
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Relationship sabotage - Open the love channels in your life - NOTE
Again, through an event like this one, we can focus a lot on the love building aspect and realize that the more love, romance, intimacy and ...
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Relationship sabotage - Love building techniques - NOTE
With sabotage, we can focus either on understanding the sabotage pattern and trying to tackle it or we can come from a radically different a...
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Relationship Sabotage and the different ways it manifests - LIVE! - This Friday Oct 29th - In Oakland - California
Hi Here is the copy for an event I will be presenting this Friday Oct 29th in Oakland/California - 1550 5th St http://www.facebook.com/event...
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Relationship sabotage - It happens because you are internally divided - NOTE
If two aspects of your personality want tow different things, that's when internal conflict arises. A part of you takes some steps in on...
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It's no stretch at all to say you saved my life - SUCCESS STORY
Just got that one... was really touched -------------------- Hi Fransisco, You are the best! Thank you so much for all the help. I was in a ...
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It's no stretch at all to say you saved my life - SUCCESS STORY
Just got that one... was really touched -------------------- Hi Fransisco, You are the best! Thank you so much for all the help. I was...
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Relationship sabotage - Relationships dilemmas and why people sometimes sabotage their love life - NOTE
WHAT ARE THESE DILEMMAS? The relationship dilemmas we talk about are the different possibilities or choices you face in life. When you have ...
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Sex predators - ARTICLE
You have many words to describe the same type of assertive and experienced dating players: predators, players, pick up artists (PUA), cougar...
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Traumatic or negative experiences associated with sex - ARTICLE
This is one of the core challenges that might stop women or men from engaging into a tantric sex exploration. In fact, next to their fantasi...
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