if you try to connect with a group of people and create friendships within that circle, elements like race, social status, assets, personality, cultural background, network or attitudes can boost your social connections or destroy your chances of linking with that specific group.
If you feel you can't connect to an individual or group, look at what disqualifies you in their eyes.
one or more elemenst might pop up.
By the way, most of these elements are "discriminative". In other terms, they are unfair.
Simply understand that social connections are mainly instinctual. it is not based on rational decisions.
people click with you instnctually if theyr recognize certains qualities they can relate to.