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I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work ~ Thomas A. Edison

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I give you Blessings and Love!


May you shine like a radiant star!


May your days be filled with JOY!


May your heart open up to the INFINITE BEAUTY OF EVERY DAY LIFE!

I feel powerful, limitless, ecstatic, infinite love for you and I want you to be totally happy!

You deserve to shine in your life!

You deserve to be free, to be inspired and to receive the blessings of life!

Whatever you attempt, you'll always be supported in your actions by a vibrant stream of inspiration!

You are free and shining like a cosmic being!

Your destiny is fulfilled and open like a clear path!

Nothing can stop you from achieving whatever you want!

Life smiles to you in whatever you try!

Your being is delighted by the gifts of every day life!

It is an ecstatic flow of delicious beauty that fills your whole being.

It is the awakening of your life force through this tantric sexual play.

The waves of desire that wake up in you are flames of pleasure.

They energize every cell in your body and while you feel these warm passionate lips kissing your whole body you are taken in the tantric trance.

Your Yoni is alive radiating while the Shiva Lingam gently penetrates you.

You are suddenly filled with Shiva's divine energy flow.

Freedom invades you like a wave of cosmic energy.

You touch eternity.

Bliss is all over you while you move your body in rhythm.

Your pleasure is complete and your two bodies are now dancing in rhythm, together.

Sex is delicious! You love it!

This feeling of connection keeps expanding.

You recognize yourself in his eyes.

You feel you mirror each other's energies.

You want more! You want to play!

I am stunned by a few things:

First the fact that I have been happily training for a week now on average 3 hours/day.

I knew it was within range but this confirms it for the third time.

These are biking uphill to get to the gym or to the forest track, fitness sessions, body pump, weight and machines training, forest track with exercises, swimming, yoga and stretching sessions, etc.

So far it works incredibly well.

My body seems to recover very fast and it is within the range of what is really fun and possible.

My body is the lightest it has been in a long time.

This means that not carrying an extra 4 to 8 pounds makes it very easy to go for endurance, jog, sprint, etc.

On a diet level, I am now at 99% raw.

No animal products for a long time now.

No eggs, no dairy, no supplements (just a multi vitamin tablet in my drink when I train but could do without it)

No extra protein.

What I notice on my body level:

First, it is the fact that I am high on energy. I feel high in my body but not extreme. I feel balanced! No struggle.

I go forward with my green smoothies and energy mixes (seeds, veges, fruit flour, oils, etc)

I still use a little dried fruit but go for energy mixes when I eat.

On a body level I notice as well that the little fat I had on the midsection is melting.

In a way, I am surprised that it's not melting faster and that's one of the key questions I have right now.

Through my intensity training, I probably added a good one hour training at least 3 times a week.

The intensity of my training sessions is higher as well.

Overall I would estimate this to a 30% increase in calories burned in training sessions during this last week period compared with the weeks before.

I feel that the amount of calories I eat is steady. I get the feeling that it's even slightly less than before.

So, in my estimates, I could be burning an extra 300-500 calories/day through this intensity training rhythm.

I get the feeling that this should show more clearly on my body and the visible small midsection fat parts that are left.

That's a question, something I still need to understand....

• After one week intensity training, the fat zones are not disappearing as fast as I thought - Why?

I started one week ago at the gym alternating with outdoor forest track and a bit of swimming.

Total an average of 2 hours training a day with body pump classes with weights and other aerobic followed by an hour weight training.

I feel I am burning good calories and feel as well, arms and chest getting way more defined.

Legs are already strong due to regular biking and jogging.

The point here was to get abs to be more defined and as well, leaner muscles in the chest and arms area.

So far, it does work and after just one week of this intense training, I feel my body's performance still rising.

With going full raw 3 months ago, I already felt my body getting closer to its 95% potential.

What was still imperfect had to do with still some unwanted fat on the belly area.

Some of it is gone.

I also carefully look at the calorie intake and make sure that I don't cross the line and stop eating before I am full.

With morning smoothies as well, I drink less than what I used to and wait to feel slightly hungry before drinking more.

Usually when lunch time comes, I am ready for the balanced energy mix with seeds, veges and flower.

So far, really so good.

This daily training schedule does require some solid discipline as I am training up to 3 hours some days.

Love it so far.

Some questions that arise:

Is there something I need to modify diet wise.

• Should I go back to taking some protein in the form of fish or stick to a purely raw diet?
• Should I cut a bit on oils?
• is there something else I should try?

I have the feeling that the some of the belly fat left could melt faster but I am not sure how to do this faster...

I would love to find a strategy that gets these results faster.

I have the feeling that a strategy exists and I am not sure what it is yet.

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By the way, I used to fluctuate between 74-78 kg

Now, I see that I fluctuate between 71-74 kg with natural daily variations up to 3 kg which is stunning.

I go to bed one day at 74 and wake up the following morning at 71.

This means that some solid metabolic processes go on even while I sleep.

This could be due to the healing process after training + hydration loss during the night.

I feel that this overall weight drop is due to going full raw.

I didn't make a solid effort before entering into this new intense training phase, so my guess is that dropping the cheese and going full raw did it.

I might have burned some visceral body fat and my figure looks lighter too. I feel lighter and enjoy any physical activity way more.

If I happen to overeat slightly at lunch, I feel the digestive impact in the afternoon very fast.

So, right now, I am really in the process of optimizing my calorie intake through feeling. I don't count calories but simply observe my hunger level.

I try to keep it at 0% and sometimes go slightly to 10% just before lunch. (not sure what scale to use for hunger levels, and how to quantify this - I'll need to check that)

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I feel now lighter when I jog and got to Switzerland already in very good shape.

I noticed as well that aligning 3 hours training a day with 30 min uphill bike riding to the gym, fitness sessions followed by weight training is ok.

My body and mind can take it relatively easily.

I know... Frustrating, right?

Well, it doesn't have to be that way.

To reach that place where you can relax no matter what other people do, look at life from another place.

Realize that what is important to you might not be important to others.

What happens when you try to force something on others?

They rebel, right?

They defend their freedom to choose what they want.

Guess what?

They are right!

It's their life not yours!

You can't take responsibility for other people's choices!

If you look at your own life, you will see dozens of small or big things that could be fixed or changed.

I agree, you might be in good shape but your finances could be in a mess.

Or you are single and can't find a partner.

Or your business venture is collapsing.

My point is that trying to control what is not yours, someone else's body, mind and choices is pointless.

You were never given the right to do so.

So, what happens if you are into healthy living and they are not?

Well, eventually you spend less time with them and tend to refresh your social circle.

It happens naturally.

Even with a partner for instance. You might split because these key life choices don't match.

It happens all the time!

Suppose that you are into hiking and your best friend is not?

See?

You either give up hiking, try to convince your best friend to join you or simply find people who have the same interests as you.

I believe that people often spend way too much time worrying about other people's choices and not enough about their own life.

I see this ALL the time when I coach.

I see people getting frustrating because of trying hard to positively influence others without getting results.

If you are trapped in that pattern, you need to do just one thing:

LET GO!

LET GO OF TRYING TO CONTROL SOMEONE ELSE'S LIFE!

It is REALLY that simple!

It doesn't mean that you don't try, ok?

You do try but lower your expectations.

For instance if you sign up at a gym and know that a good friend could benefit from it, give them a call, tell them it would be fun to do that together and LET IT GO!

If they don't say yes the first time, you can mention it again a few weeks later VERY CASUALLY!

No pressure!

Set them free.

What if you see them destroying their health through wrong life choices?

The best way to go is to tell them that you are not here to tell them what to do but if they are open for it, you'll be happy to help them shift negative habits.

I can warn you already!

When you engage your energy in trying to help someone like a good friend, it can quickly become VERY frustrating if you see no results.

So again, my advice is: look at your own life and ask yourself:

"Is there anything that needs attention in my own life"

The second question you can ask yourself is:

"What will be more fruitful? Me spending weeks trying to help that person with zero guarantees and little results? Or me investing this exact energy and solve whatever needs to be fixed in my own life?"

You know the answer, right?

You have way more control over your own life than over someone else's!

There is an exception to that:

It is if you are a parent or are responsible for someone else's well being or education.

You can for instance be a professional working in the wellness field.

Or you are a parent and need to teach your kids positive life style choices.

Yes! There are many situations in which you can positively influence someone else's life.

However the best way to influence is often by leading the way through example.

That's often all which is needed.

You are experiencing it EVERY day! Every second! All the time!

Chi IS life force! It is Shakti!

The moment you are born, life force flows through you. That's what keeps you alive. That's CHI!

Life is magical by itself. We simply forget how magical it is because we get USED to being alive.

We get used to a certain flow of Chi or life force in our system.

What most people want to experience is an ACCELERATION or INTENSIFICATION of that life force.

Well, in fact you can raise your Chi but in my experience, it is often not as spectacular as we think it is.

You will often experience it as a gradual process while your energy level keeps rising over a certain period of time.

If you practice hatha yoga regularly, you will for instance feel your vibration increasing over a certain period of time.

It could take 2 to 3 months.

During these intense practice periods, you feel your being gently sliding towards a state of bliss or mystical trance.

You feel an inner space opening up.

That's due to the increase of Chi.

Chis is the energy in your body.

Chi is what flows through your meridians or nadis.

So, when you practice yoga, you open up these channels and train your body to be able to channel more energy.

This is a VERY vast topic and what I am sharing here is only a tiny fraction of what you can experience.

You can trigger more spectacular or explosive Chi flow through very simple techniques.

Check this page for more:

http://vitalcoaching.com/energy.htm

Remove shame or guilt!

Somehow, society has developed this attitude or energy towards sexual desire, sexual exchange.

It feels like sexual desire for someone is something that people should be ashamed of.

Why?

Why did it come to that?

Take this example:

Suppose you are a man.

You go to a party.

You start chatting with this girl.

You start feeling aroused by her presence.

You start having fantasies about having sex with her right there.

Now, would you tell her?

Of course not, right?

The question is: WHY?

WHY NOT?

Is it "inappropriate"?

Is it insulting?

Do you diminish her in any way by feeling sexual desire towards her?

Something is happening in your mind and body right there.

This thing is sexual desire.

It is because of sexual desire that people have sex, procreate and each one of us is alive on this planet because of it!

We should be thankful for sexual desire and celebrate each time we feel it!

Really!

It is a delicious emotion that brings sparks of energy in people's lives.

Where did the shame come from?

Who defines what's appropriate or not?

Why would sex be something dirty that needs to be hidden?

Do you realize how much these beliefs shape society and human interactions?

In the example I mentioned above, what you really say when you express your desire to have sex with her is:

"I find you incredibly attractive and while I enjoy this conversation with you, I feel like touching your hair and kissing your lips.

I want to remove your clothes, be naked together and engage in a sexual dance with you. I am filled with desire to have you in my arms..."

See?

Beautiful, right?

You just gave her a whole set of delicious compliments.

You told her that you like her, appreciate her beauty and are profoundly touched by her presence.

You feel a connection and want to express that connection.

By the way, if you are a woman feeling sexual desire for a man, the same applies. Same if you are gay as well.

That's what I see.

Sexual desire is a gift!

Feeling it is a blessing!

Here are some of the targeted techniques that you can use:

• Lingam stimulation
• Yoni stimulation
• Seduction play
• Maithuna - sexual union
• Yab Yum pose
• Kissing flow
• Interval lingam stimulation
• Tantric sex sessions
• Tantric sex art
• Tantric sex game - for 2 or more couples
• Etc.

Do you want to be in love?

Of course you do!

You like the feeling of having a crush too!

Now, what is VERY alienating is when you have a crush and no way of fulfilling your desires.

That's when it hurts!

It's stressful and creates pain!

You don't want to get rid of the sexual attraction, the desire, the lust, the sex!

All these are perfect!

They are energy and they make you feel alive.

What is not nice is to feel alienated or enslaved by emotions you have no idea how to tame, direct or control.

That's the place that really hurts.

Ultimately, it is about mastering your sexual energy and being to play with it at will.

You want as well to generate sexual connection with any person you want.

That's the dream of every woman, of every girl.

It is to be able to get in a guy's head and get him to like you back.

Here is the thing: I believe it is actually possible.

I see women expressing qualities that make them super attractive to men all the time.

Some of it has to do with looks of course, character, ambitions, sexiness, flirting skills, etc.

These are the usual things but there is one more that I think is the key!

This one is usually not expressed or described or talked about enough!

It is SEXUAL CONFIDENCE.

More than that! It is about being able to fulfill and man's profound sexual desires.

The key is tantric sex or taoist sex.

What does that mean?

That you know how to trigger and stimulate a man's desire.

You can trigger it through your attitude, the way you touch him, the way you stimulate him sexually.

That's when you REALLY hit the holly grail of sexual attraction and get in a man's mind.

You need to be able to stimulate a man's energy at will and truly own this skill.

To tell you the truth sexual intercourse is only a small fraction of these skills.

You have to put yourself in the position of the one who wants to serve this man as Shiva!

You see him like a God and you are a Goddess.

Don't worry, this is a 2 ways things and the situation will be reversed.

This means men will worship you as well and fulfill your deepest desires.

But for now, let's focus first on what you can give a man that will get him to come back to you over and over again for more.

You see, in most cases, men and women will have sex, one or both of them orgasms and this is it.

If the man loses semen, he will usually fall in the after sex stage.

This means that his sexual desire drops and his level of attraction towards you can collapse as well.

Even if you share a romantic moment afterwards by holding each other for instance, the following day, his desire to have sex with you could be much lower.

So, the key is to get him to hold his semen for much longer and even not lose it at all.

Put it this way: who will want to see you more the following day? A guy who is still burning with desire for you or the one who has already lost semen and is in the after sex stage?

You know that, right?

A man ejaculating before your orgasm can be one of the most frustrating sexual experiences you can have.

It changes everything!

You see him drifting away in a TOTALLY different reality.

You feel suddenly an emotional gap appearing between the two of you.

The reason this gap exists is because the energy that was fueling the emotional connection is gone.

It is really that simple!

A huge part of romantic love has to do with sexual attraction!

This is how we were programed by nature: to procreate.

So much of our social interactions and the way we handle them is about managing and triggering sexual desire.

So, back to men feeling attracted to you...

The moment you give a man incredible pleasure and are super confident with your sexual skills, guys come back to you over and over again.

Do you realize that some men will pay $300-$1000 just to experience that with a tantric goddess?

Tantric goddess is a nice way of saying "sacred courtesan" or "sacred prostitute".

The word prostitute has loads of negative associations and we are not talking about this here actually.

We are talking about skills, sexual skills.

You can be a tantric goddess and express your skills with just one man you feel committed to.

Or you can have a more open approach and have tantric sex with many partners.

Or you can engage in a commercial activity and be paid for your tantric sex services.

All these are variations and you need to find for yourself what suits you.

My point is that whatever way you want to express them, what you want are sexual confidence or sexual mastery.

These are skills!

They are your ability to tame Eros, the desire, the sexual energy in man's body and stimulate it at will.

When you lay on a massage table and you have a skilled massagist taking care of you, how does that make you feel?

A very skilled massagist can even take you to a mystical state and literally open a consciousness gateway in you.

That's skilled touch and that's the exact type of skill you need to develop if you want to connect with any man you want and get them to be and stay attracted to you.

That's the dance of Eros.

It is the art of mastering sexual energy in you and in others.

Guys can actually get bored with sex.

If what they experience with you is not exciting enough they will go and look somewhere else.

So, if you have everything, character, energy, beauty and feel that you still don't click with men you are attracted to, these are the skills you want to develop.

Practically, what are we talking about?

It is a infinite set of possibilities.

We are not talking about just a simple trick, ok?

We are talking about embodying EXACTLY what any man profoundly wants!

What they want is YOU TO BE ABLE TO BRING THEM TO A STATE OF ABSOLUTE, TOTAL MYSTICAL TRANCE THROUGH THE ACTIVATION AND MASTERY OF THEIR SEXUAL ENERGY.

Again, it's a two ways thing!

So yes! a skilled male Daka or Tantrika will do this for you too.

Once you know that this is in fact what you want to develop, finding the techniques and practicing them is actually easy.

That's not the challenge.

The real challenge is to align yourself with that energy.

That's were many women fail because they don't know how to connect with that stream.

These skills we talk about are part of an inner school, an inner teaching which has been on the planet for a long time.

Over the centuries, these skills reappear here and there through the impulse of some tantric master.

Manifested tantric schools do exist but you can access these skills internally as well.

You can develop them.

These skills don't BELONG to just one tradition. They go beyond borders and limits.

They are free and open all over the world.

All you need is a desire to explore them and they will come to you.

The key words here are:

SEXUAL CONFIDENCE.

SEXUAL MASTERY.

MASTERY OF SEXUAL ENERGIES.

When you develop these qualities, it gives you a whole new edge in the way you relate to men!

And believe me, I have seen quite a few women express these skills!

It's unbelievable to see the desire they trigger in men instantly.

Don't be mistaken, ok? This is very far away from the porn stream.

What we talk about here is NOT some superficial experience based on a commercial system.

It is not cheap, slutty or vulgar.

We are talking something that goes way deeper than that.

It is refined! It is an art!

It is a spiritual stream that opens energy gateways in your body and mind.

And yes! That's any man's most profound desire!

This is what gives you the final dating or sex edge that guys are really looking for.

When you have it and embody it, you have it for life!

It's a set of skills, attitudes and a incredible level of sexual confidence that you will NEVER forget!

THIS is what you are looking for.

You can go around in circles testing everything I said.

You can look for alternatives and other ways to access a man's mind.

You will eventually come back to what I am saying now.

Many women realize this when they are in their 40's or 50's after a broken marriage or a series of frustrating relationships.

Every single woman I know is in fact looking for these skills.

The ones who already have them, want to perfect them.

Every love and desire you ever had in your existence can be fulfilled once you master sexual energy in you and in men.

Mastering doesn't mean control, ok?

It means playing with it at will!

Being able to stimulate it or silent it at will.

Nowadays, cigarette packages carry a label "Smoking kills you", right?

I guess how big this label is and what it says depends on the country's regulation.

I just found out that the European Union is planning to set up a system where bad food will be labelled as well.

This French article says that the makers of Nutella for instance (which is composed of 60% sugar) might have soon to ad to their labels that their product is "Dangerous for your health".

The final label or regulation might not be as blunt as this statement but I believe this is a good step in the right direction.

That's incredible news as so many consumers bombarded by brainwashing ads still think that giving Nutella to their kids is healthy!

yeah! right!

That's really good news!

This is one of the core strategies to succeed with raw food!

Most of you will have a partner or kids or friends you prepare meals for, right?

Sometimes, these people resist the idea of eating raw.

When you bring up the idea and talk about it, they often come up with loads of objections.

You can of course answer their questions and especially tell them clearly that YOU RESPECT THEIR CHOICES!

Often, your social circle or family feels threatened because they might feel that you try to impose your choices on them.

They might feel you judge them for not making the same choices as you do.

They might interpret that in fact as you telling them that you are a better person than them.

This often triggers a competitive, arguing or defensive response.

To avoid all that, tell them again things like:

• The fact that I eat raw doesn't mean that I am a better person than you.
• These are my choices and I am not here to challenge you or impose anything on you.
• You can relax, I won't pressure you.
• I totally respect your choices.
• You are absolutely free to eat what you want.
• Etc.

When you communicate that way, it releases the tension and allows everyone to relax.

Here is what you can do next:

When you are the one preparing meals, make big quantities of the raw and less of the cooked.

For instance, make twice as much salad. Ad some nuts, fresh greens and ad a nice raw dressing.

That way, when your kids, partner or friends will find it very easy to taste your dishes.

When I test this, I ALWAYS see people tasting these raw dishes and liking them.

I tested that with all sorts of recipes, with friends, family, kids.

It ALWAYS works.

You might need to refine your recipes and try this a few times if the first test is not a full success.

The point is that when people are confronted with raw choices, they usually try them and like them.

You have to let go of trying to convince those around you through discussions and arguments.

Instead, simply prepare the raw dishes and let them try them in their own time.

If they say, they don't really like it, LISTEN!

Understand why! They might have a point!

Listen very carefully to what they say and modify some recipes according to their wishes.

If you already are into raw food, it is something YOU can learn from as well.

I can tell you that, when I first started, I liked what I prepared but the smoothies and salads I prepared where not tasty enough for others.

I started adding more oils, fresh herbs nuts and seeds and now, these dishes are no longer just for me.

Others can enjoy them too.

One more point: don't try to get your family or social circle to shift to 100% raw at first.

That's one of the core mistakes you can make! Believing that it must be all or nothing.

It is absolutely NOT the case.

Give them all the space they need to evolve progressively, IN THEIR OWN TIME, to a healthier diet.

Once they get used to more salads, they might start preparing them themselves.

They might start with fresh smoothies.

What's important is that THEY OWN the choices they make!

...Rather then doing something because they feel forced to.

Give it a try and if you have a question or face a challenge with that, send me a mail with the exact situation you face.

I am 100% convinced that there is a solution for it.

I am always stunned when I hear people using that one as an excuse not to get back in shape.

Think about it for a few seconds...

OF COURSE YOU DIDN'T TRY EVERYTHING!

When you say you tried everything, you use what is called a cognitive distortion.

You overgeneralize one or a few experiences you had.

What you really mean to say is:

• Here are the strategies I tried
• Here are the road blocks I faced
• Here is when I gave up