Use the verb "I want". Connecting with yourself means manifesting your own power in the very core of your life. Your Self is not some distant cosmic reality living in outer space. It is your very essence in the core of your being. When you say "I want", you affirm your identity and your will power and in that sense strengthen your confidence by simply going for it.
Boost your confidence by taking action, small risks, moving daily beyond your comfort zone. Identify where is the first place you can start and do it!
Enjoy!