HI :-) I've been dating this guy for 6 months, and everything was going pretty good. But now, I feel like he is avoiding me - we still keep in touch, but he doesn't return my messages anymore, doesn't call when he says so and if I ask him if something bothers him he says that everything's ok and he's being very busy right now. I don't know what to do. I don't want to intrude and distract him from his work, but I miss him... Please ,help me. I really care for the guy!
Hi,
There is a sacred rule in the dating scene. Respect a "no thank you". Respecting someone's personal space is super important. If he's not responding, it just means he needs space. He probably still likes you but for a reason or another, he's probably busy with something else.
The best is to focus on other directions and start looking for other guys to spend your time with.
Towards him, you can send him a card or email every now and then but you could start sounding clingy, attached or desperate, specially if he does not respond. Sounding clingy or attached are two big turn offs for guys. It gives them the feeling you totally depend on them for your happiness and this puts them under pressure. They start feeling like they have to "feed" your world 24 hours a day.
On the other hand, if you stay socially active and see other people, enjoy life, act free and feel free, you become magnetically attractive because you are having great fun.
I know this is an essential shift. Once you get good at letting go from a guy and focus back on yourself, you'll feel how much this empowers and strengthens you. It's totally magical and shifts the way you stand in life.
Enjoy!