I AM NOT READY
Now suppose that your fears and doubts concerning relationships are irrational or overdone.
"I am not ready!"
That's what you are REALLY saying when you self sabotage your relationships or love life in this situation.
Something is missing:
- I don't trust it
- I want to keep my freedom
- I know there is someone else
- I am afraid
- I don't want to get hurt
- Etc.
This is what you are REALLY saying.