- Romantic vision does not match reality - you might hold to the romantic dream in unrealistic ways
- Unrealistic expectations about your date or partner
- Being too picky
- Etc.
Here are more general ideas about sabotage qualities you might bring in and what you want to turn them into:
RIGIDITY >> FLEXIBILITY
CONTROL >> TRUST
CONTROL >> FREEDOM
COMPETITION >> COLLABORATION
CONFLICT >> SYNERGY
DEMANDS >> FREEDOM
EMOTIONAL THREAT >> RESPECT
PRESSURE >> OPENNESS
INTOLERANCE >> RESPECT