They tend to start fights over parenting issues.
They want to influence their partner's behavior and the way they treat their kids!!
BIG NO NO!
It doesn't work!!!
Why? Because she is in charge of that.
Instead of criticizing or challenging her when you see something she could do differently, give her positive feed back when you see stuff she does right:
"Hey! I really liked the way you talked to your son yesterday! Spot on"
"You have such a refreshing connection with them... Nice to watch"
Etc.
Do that a lot!
It's super validating and energizing when your partner recognizes your parenting skills.