You think you are something you are not because your actions don't match your words.
In a way it is like a big lie.
If try to fool yourself and everyone else and you feel something disturbing or uncomfortable rising in you and in others, here is why:
Your actions don't match your words.
You are not in truth and authenticity, and that creates a disconnection
Here is your answer:
Empty wisdom, empty words,empty promises, etc.