Yes! Definitely yes!
However you need to do it right.
First, you need proof that he is lying.
Maybe you spied on him and checked his email or cell phone.
This means that you have real proof, not just feelings.
If all you have are vague feelings, you can't confront him. It won't work.
Once you have gathered solid proofs, you need to realize as well that you spied on him.
He will accuse you of not trusting him.
The next step is to choose the right timing and attitude for that.
You don't want to point your finger at him and tell him how bad he is.
You want to sit down and have an open dialogue about what is going in your relationship.
My guess is that you still care and that you still want him.
If it is the case, the goal is to empower your relationship, not to find someone to blame.
Say something like: "I face a challenge with our relationship and I need your help to solve this dilemma. When is a good time to talk about this?"
If he accuses you of spying on him, you can say:
"Yes! We both did something which betrays the trust in our relationship. We are both guilty. Now, what are we going to do about it?"
If he says:
"First, I need you to promise me that you won't do that again..."
You can say:
"If I have serious reasons to believe that you are cheating on me, I will use any tool I can to find out what is truly going on."
"Now, my turn. You cheated on me. How do you feel about what happened?"
The best way to go is: no demand and no pressure.
The first step is to get a feel of what is truly going on in his mind.
For the full story and what to do next, check the jealousy e-book and MP3 audios at:
http://vitalcoaching.com/femalejealousy.htm
Enjoy!
vitalcoach
However you need to do it right.
First, you need proof that he is lying.
Maybe you spied on him and checked his email or cell phone.
This means that you have real proof, not just feelings.
If all you have are vague feelings, you can't confront him. It won't work.
Once you have gathered solid proofs, you need to realize as well that you spied on him.
He will accuse you of not trusting him.
The next step is to choose the right timing and attitude for that.
You don't want to point your finger at him and tell him how bad he is.
You want to sit down and have an open dialogue about what is going in your relationship.
My guess is that you still care and that you still want him.
If it is the case, the goal is to empower your relationship, not to find someone to blame.
Say something like: "I face a challenge with our relationship and I need your help to solve this dilemma. When is a good time to talk about this?"
If he accuses you of spying on him, you can say:
"Yes! We both did something which betrays the trust in our relationship. We are both guilty. Now, what are we going to do about it?"
If he says:
"First, I need you to promise me that you won't do that again..."
You can say:
"If I have serious reasons to believe that you are cheating on me, I will use any tool I can to find out what is truly going on."
"Now, my turn. You cheated on me. How do you feel about what happened?"
The best way to go is: no demand and no pressure.
The first step is to get a feel of what is truly going on in his mind.
For the full story and what to do next, check the jealousy e-book and MP3 audios at:
http://vitalcoaching.com/femalejealousy.htm
Enjoy!
vitalcoach