What do you want to change in you? Usually the answer will be "an emotion", "my way of responding to a situation", "the way I feel about myself", "the way I relate to others", etc.
All these are mind patterns.
What is a mind pattern? It is a thought form, an emotion, a habit, etc. All these are the result of either conditioning or genetic imprint.
Conditioning is the result of education and it can be changed. All you have to do is to reprogram your mind.
If your computer is not efficient, you'll usually ad a piece of software, reprogram an aspect of the procedure, etc.
Your mind functions in a similar way. To shift a mind pattern, all you have to do is replace it by a new more efficient pattern.
Here are some examples:
If you tend to doubt a lot, all you have to do is replace doubt by trust and confidence.
If you miss social skills, go and get what you are missing.
How do you do that? By retraining yourself, retraining your reaction in very specific life situations.
You start by reducing the challenge to a size that you can handle. Divide the problem in very small parts and focus on one aspect at a time.
In the beginning of the week, you identify a key area you want to focus on. For instance if you want to strengthen your confidence, you consciously focus on taking risks or steps you did not take before. You go beyond your comfort zone by taking action. Focus first on small affordable steps. Once you feel confident with small steps, take bigger steps, and so on.
Focus on one target for 1 week. Make it your priority and focus number one.
The following week focus on a new target, for instance communication skills. Develop that skill for a week and move on to another target the following week.
Change will happen if you take action. This means taking steps and going beyond the limits of what you already know.
It is possible, easy, and within your range.
Action is what takes you from where you are to where you want to be.