It's essential to keep everyone happy. Specially yourself!
With your boyfriend, give him a bit more every time, but don't give him what you don't want to. Taking it slowly is very wise and builds up the excitement and the love between the two of you. The pleasure of this foreplay and flirting game is a nice place to be in.
With your parents, I am not sure... How old are you?
Try to speak with them and ask them what they are afraid of. Reassure them in any way you can. Tell them you like your life and you won't do anything which puts it in danger.
Good luck and enjoy!