Yes! Taking financial responsibility for him makes you more prone to jealousy outbursts.
It opens a door!
It increases your expectations!
I makes you feel that you have the right to tell him what to do or not.
In other terms, it radically shifts the dynamics of how you relate to him.
What is the solution?
Does it mean that if you don't want to feel jealousy, you must not give him money?
Does it mean that if he wants to start his own business and you have the resources, you must not help him?
Well...
Ask yourself this question:
What is the deal?
What do you expect in return?
Would you still give him this money if he wants to go partying with his female friends or go on dates with his ex?
Really! What is the deal?
Is it a gift or a loan?
What if you break up or he meets someone else?
Will you still give him money?
How will this affect you emotionally?
Usually, having this financial link makes challenges harder to deal with.
If you are both financially and materially independent, you manifest a higher level of freedom.
What is left between the two of you is really love and attraction! These are the true binding forces!
Now, if the core binding force is a financial agreement you end up playing a very different game.
What will he say if you don't want to help him financially?
"No money? No boyfriend!"
Would this be his answer?
Or would it sound more like:
"Money is not an issue between the two of us. I thank you for your honesty and I'll find another way of supporting myself. It changes nothing between you and I. I love you for who you are, not for whatever money or support you would have given me!"
How would your boyfriend respond?
Dare to ask yourself this question and face the facts, whatever these facts are.
So, what does this have to do with jealousy?
You can see the money you give him as an investment. You invest your money into a part of your being or an aspect of your life you care for.
You usually expect something in return, whether it's conscious or unconscious.
You realize that if you give him money, it is not just a free gift.
There are usually unspoken conditions and you do expect some form of commitment on his side.
Because you give more (not just love), you expect more!
Now, he might not realize or even accept this.
Is he saying?
"Because you support me financially, it gives you the right to tell me what to do"
Of course not!
The unspoken contract is never discussed in detail! It stays very vague!
This is why supporting him financially can mean trouble for your relationship.
Because this agreement is unspoken and there is no clear "contract" you are left only with powers like jealousy and control to enforce it.
This is why giving him money makes you more prone to jealousy.
It is simply a natural instinctual response to this situation.
For more on jealousy dynamics and what really goes on in your relationship, get this e-book and MP3 audios:
http://vitalcoaching.com/femalejealousy.htm
It will answer your top questions on this topic and give you the strategies to solve these challenges.
To your power!
vitalcoach
It opens a door!
It increases your expectations!
I makes you feel that you have the right to tell him what to do or not.
In other terms, it radically shifts the dynamics of how you relate to him.
What is the solution?
Does it mean that if you don't want to feel jealousy, you must not give him money?
Does it mean that if he wants to start his own business and you have the resources, you must not help him?
Well...
Ask yourself this question:
What is the deal?
What do you expect in return?
Would you still give him this money if he wants to go partying with his female friends or go on dates with his ex?
Really! What is the deal?
Is it a gift or a loan?
What if you break up or he meets someone else?
Will you still give him money?
How will this affect you emotionally?
Usually, having this financial link makes challenges harder to deal with.
If you are both financially and materially independent, you manifest a higher level of freedom.
What is left between the two of you is really love and attraction! These are the true binding forces!
Now, if the core binding force is a financial agreement you end up playing a very different game.
What will he say if you don't want to help him financially?
"No money? No boyfriend!"
Would this be his answer?
Or would it sound more like:
"Money is not an issue between the two of us. I thank you for your honesty and I'll find another way of supporting myself. It changes nothing between you and I. I love you for who you are, not for whatever money or support you would have given me!"
How would your boyfriend respond?
Dare to ask yourself this question and face the facts, whatever these facts are.
So, what does this have to do with jealousy?
You can see the money you give him as an investment. You invest your money into a part of your being or an aspect of your life you care for.
You usually expect something in return, whether it's conscious or unconscious.
You realize that if you give him money, it is not just a free gift.
There are usually unspoken conditions and you do expect some form of commitment on his side.
Because you give more (not just love), you expect more!
Now, he might not realize or even accept this.
Is he saying?
"Because you support me financially, it gives you the right to tell me what to do"
Of course not!
The unspoken contract is never discussed in detail! It stays very vague!
This is why supporting him financially can mean trouble for your relationship.
Because this agreement is unspoken and there is no clear "contract" you are left only with powers like jealousy and control to enforce it.
This is why giving him money makes you more prone to jealousy.
It is simply a natural instinctual response to this situation.
For more on jealousy dynamics and what really goes on in your relationship, get this e-book and MP3 audios:
http://vitalcoaching.com/femalejealousy.htm
It will answer your top questions on this topic and give you the strategies to solve these challenges.
To your power!
vitalcoach