In a situation like the one you face, you want to empower your relationship.
How do you do that?
You bring in new skills, ways of communicating, exchanging and expanding your awareness.
You both can immensely grow but you need to invest time and energy to make it work.
Success with your relationship is something your do build consciously. You might simply expect "it" to happen naturally.
However, nature alone is not always enough.
In your situation, you want to learn something extra.
The idea is to actively do something about it.
It requires, time, effort and focus but it's definitely within your range.
It takes 1 to 3 months to shift what is happening right now.
How do you do that? Coaching, couple counseling.
These are good options.
You need to take steps together for this to work.
In other terms: invest yourselves in it!
That's the real solution.
Why do it?
Is it worth it?
I guarantee you that if you take steps and learn more about relationships skills, you'll radically shift the way you stand in it and empower the love you share.
The key is to shift from letting nature do it for you to consciously work on it.
You ad your will power, skills and determination to make it work.
It is powerful!
It does work and would bring back excitement and power in the core of your relationship.
You need however to go beyond your comfort zone and take steps you never took before.
The shift does not happen overnight.
You truly need to work on this together over a period of 1 to 3 months.