Of course, this is not a complete list!
There is way more but it will at least give you a spectrum of ideas and possible tactics.
Up to you to choose what works in your situation
YOUR RESPONSE TACTICS
- KINDNESS
- ANGER
- AGGRESSION
- PASSIVITY
- ARGUING
- DISTANCE
- BOUNDARY
- CUTTING HER OFF
- EXCLUDING
- DIALOGUE
- LOVE
- ESCALATION
- RETALIATION
- DEPRIVATION
- ULTIMATUM
- RIDICULING
- EDUCATING
- REASONING
- ANALYZING
- CRITICIZING
- RELEASING
- PASSIVITY
- IGNORING
- COMPASSION
- CURIOSITY
- ENERGY RELEASE
- VITAL FORCE ACTIVATION
- VITAL FORCE ACTIVATION TOGETHER
- VITAL SEX
- CARE
- EMBRACING
- ACCEPTING
- TRUTH
- STEADY POWER
- GRATITUDE - VOICE YOUR GRATITUDE - THANK HER FOR THE EXPERIENCE
- FOOLING
- HUMOR
- SARCASM
- ENERGY BUILD UP
- VICTIMIZING
- COMPLAINING
- BLAMING
- RESENTING
- PITYING
- SELF BLAME
- SELF SABOTAGE
- SELF DESTRUCTIVE CHOICES
- FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF
- LEAVE
- STAY PRESENT
- DON'T REACT
- GET TRIGGERED
- FEEL IT
- ARGUE
- DEFEND YOURSELF
- EMOTIONAL RELEASE
- GET DRUNK
- SURF THE NET
- CONNECT WITH FRIENDS
- GET CREATIVE
- GET LOST IN WORK
- TEASE HER
- USE HUMOR
- MEDITATE
- DISCONNECT
- PERMANENT SEPARATION - CUT CONTACT
- JOURNAL
- STAY UNTOUCHED
I will check in another post the best tactics.
For now, I'll let you feel into that.
Questions for you:
Which of these tactics did you try?
What's your favorite response to her shadow attacks?
What are 3 specific situations where you handled her shadow really well?
What exactly did you do?
What shadow were you exposed to?
What are 3 specific shadow attacks that you handled poorly?
What exactly was your response?
What's a more winning response?
What exactly would you do in the future if you were exposed to these challenging shadows again?