ATTACK SHADOWS - PROJECTED SHADOWS
- ANGER
- ATTACKING
- BEING BITCHY
- CONFUSING
- MISREPRESENTING
- BLAMING
- COMPLAINING
- CRITICIZING
- RESENTING
- DEPRIVING
- BEING UNGRATEFUL
- IGNORING YOU
- CUTTING YOU OFF
- EXCLUDING
- EMOTIONAL INSTABILITY
- BEING TRIGGERED
- SABOTAGING
- MISLEADING
- LYING
- SARCASM
- BETRAYING
- CHEATING
- MANIPULATING
- ARGUING
- DISTORTING
- DENYING
- STORY PROJECTING
- EMOTIONAL THREAT
- GOSSIPING
- SELF ENTITLEMENT
- SELF RIGHTEOUSNESS
- PRIVACY INVASION
- HARASSING
- EMOTIONAL HARASSMENT
- SURPRISE ATTACKS
- EMOTIONAL SHIFTS
- EMOTIONAL INTENSITY
- DRAMA
- NARCISSISM
- RESTRAINING
- DOMESTICATING
- CONTROLLING
- MICROMANAGING
- VICTIMIZATION
- SELF PITY
- INSECURITY
- NEEDINESS
- SADNESS
- CONFUSION
- DEPRESSION
- BEING OFF
- DRAMATIZING
- GENERALIZING
- JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS
- AVOIDANCE
You notice that I separated these shadows in two categories because some can be attacks while others can be internalized.
The impact on how you feel is totally different.
A typical internalized shadow is "Sadness".
A typical externalized shadow is "Anger"
Questions for you:
Which of these shadows does your current partner express?
What are her 3 core shadows?
What about previous relationships? What shadows do you see?
How doe the expressions of these shadows impact on you?
How do these shadows impact on your couple?
What is your best response to these shadow attacks? Analyze them one by one
Are her shadows internalized or externalized?
Do you recognize in her other shadows that are not in this list?
What are your 3 core shadows?
How do you intend to shift or integrate these behaviors?
What are her 3 core shadows?
What about previous relationships? What shadows do you see?
How doe the expressions of these shadows impact on you?
How do these shadows impact on your couple?
What is your best response to these shadow attacks? Analyze them one by one
Are her shadows internalized or externalized?
Do you recognize in her other shadows that are not in this list?
What are your 3 core shadows?
How do you intend to shift or integrate these behaviors?